The hardest part is saying the first word. Once you start, you bridge the gap between isolation and connection.
Common fears that hold us back (and why they shouldn't).
✅ Truth: Silence reinforces the feeling that they are alone. Asking shows you care.
✅ Truth: Checking in on a friend is an act of love, not intrusion.
✅ Truth: You don't need answers. You just need to listen.
✅ Truth: Anger is often a defense mechanism. Stay calm and show support.
A simple framework for a tough conversation.
Find a private, comfortable space where you won't be interrupted. Avoid bringing it up in a group or when one of you is rushed.
Stick to facts and observations, not assumptions. 'I've noticed you haven't been coming to lunch lately...'
Don't beat around the bush. 'Are you okay?' or 'How are you really doing?' works best.
This is the most important part. Let them talk. Don't interrupt, don't try to fix it immediately. Just listen.
Asking is just the beginning. The real magic happens when you hold space for the answer.
Step 3: Holding Space →